(Jan 1, 11:34pm)

Yes, I was suspecting right.... the colleagues had planned a small surprise for me.. They had ordered a delicious chocolate cake..

Bolivian evasion or something, I can't remember.. But it was mouth-watering...

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I sneaked out of office at 6pm.. didn't even switch off the computer for fear of getting caught.. told a trusted colleague to do so later..

Not that it would be a problem if the boss saw me going.. but I wanted to avoid any kind of conversation..

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Went to Big Chill, a popular Italian restaurant at Khan market.. It was a beautiful way to sign off the new year day, which also was my birthday,..

Had this salad called, Salad Nicoise.. It was basically Tuna fish on a bed of lettuce.. with French beans, onion rings, tomatoes, black olives and a hard boiled egg.. served with some creamy vinaigrette..

For the main course, I ordered Portuguese Puri Puri sauce... it was baked fish, with bread and steamed vegetables...

All was good today, beaming a beautiful embrace to 2016, which I hope brings all smiles and no sob to my life.

Happy New Year, again!

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(Jan 1, 4:18pm)

Brim with joy forever... Happy New Year 2016..

Started the day with a jog.. there's this lush, green ground nearby.. this was the first time I visited it..

New year resolutions are meant to be broken.. But I lived up to it partly.. the jog, hence, happened.. but three hours behind the schedule, at 9...

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This is one of those rare birthdays, I am not in hometown.. In fact, this is only the third time I am not in Patna on Jan 1st...

So, I miss doing the pooja, and getting up very early to arrange for the pooja and then have my staple breakfast of cheese sandwiches and a glass full of orange juice..

But I prayed, nevertheless...

I hope to go to some good restaurant at Green Park in the evening, and eat out...

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Have come here to office for a couple of hours.. my colleagues know this is my birthday.. may be they are doing something..

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(Dec 31, 11:40pm)

31st December this time was quite a contrast.. as I said, I was strolling around in CP.. having food.. watching people revel in merriment..

Eearlier, these were silent closed door nights in Patna... in the 1990s...

People celebrated in home... streets were empty.. and it would be very cold, anyway..

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Ours would be beautiful experience.. since 1st is my birthday, mom would be cooking till very late in the night.. preparing snacks and other things for the party the day after..

We would be watching TV.. and mom would ask us to taste the food... sweets...

There was something called Gits.. it was a kind of flour.. you had to make a dough and prepare balls.. you fried them and then dipped them in sugar syrup.. Your Gulab jamun was ready..

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She'd ask us to taste the kabli chana too.. gulab jamun and kabli chana, Mum always prepared on my birthdays..

Then bread rolls... Chicken would be marinated and kept in the refrigerator... funny, but sometimes I would be tempted to taste the uncooked chicken too..

But, I never dared... Muma would not encourage such things..

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Earlier in the day, we would go out finishing the marketing.. and personally inviting the family friends..

We had only one cake shop then.. it was called Cake Palace.. we'd go there too.. and while the cake was getting prepared, Muma would get us pastries..

We hated waiting.. but the pastries would interest us..

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(Dec 31, 11:37pm)

Was strolling around CP after office.. had snacks at KFC and then sipped some good Irish coffee at CCD..

Which was nice.. If my friends were in town, I would have gone out somewhere.. there were a couple of invitations.. but those must be big get-togethers..

I didn't want to socialise.. two-three friends were ok.. but sadly, this time I was alone.. but I enjoyed.. well, if you are happy, you are happy.. that's it.. and I was pretty happy..

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(Dec 31, 00:34am)

There are some friends whom I lost touch since the first year of Mumma's passing away... there presence was overwhelming in those gloomy times..

But somehow we have not been in touch.. they are not on my Facebook friends' group either..

When I saw them today, sneaking into their profiles, I could see they have changed... they are certainly looking older than the picture I had in mind..

In five years you do grow up... may be I too have grown and changed, but I do not realise since I am seeing myself everyday..

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Does age bother me..

I can't answer in yes or no.. sometimes it does... but then it's not the age in fact.. sometimes I feel I am not completing many things on time.. and everything has a time..

Like, say writing my debut novel.. or getting a certain pay package or rising to a certain level in the hierarchy in office..

Some of you might say I'm doing pretty good on those lines.. but then I have my fixed targets in mind, and I assess myself against my own set targets...

Family, marriage too has an age... of-course it's adjustable considerably.. but I believe that happens only when you have achieved your basic successes early on..

Then, lots of adjustments could be done.. So, yes age bothers me.. but in a very different way..

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(Dec 30, 5:03pm)

Had a good time last evening, sipping an Ethiopian coffee at CP.. I do not feel like retiring to home after work, as this is a festive season..

So, last evening at around 8, I went to KFC at Connaught place and then post the meal I was sitting at a coffee bar... having some time to myself.. thinking about the new year..

No, I'm not suggesting that I like being alone all the time.. or making a virtue out of it.. it's just that the 2-3 friends I could hang out with, are not in town.. and the ones who are inviting me, I'm not very keen to meet..

So, that's okay... I can enjoy solitarily too..  actually I do not have fixed rules.. If I have good friends around, I like hanging out.. on other times, I am fine alone..

But yes, I am not very comfortable with large groups, or with acquaintances... I need friends who are close..

Sometimes, I want to be alone necessarily.. the choice varies.. anyway, right now I would have been happier if these friends were around.. but then, that's okay..

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Office threw a year end lunch today.. they had ordered food from the kitchen of Al-Nazir... the mutton was good...

A couple of colleagues were saying we could plan something for 31st evening.. let's see.. nothing is decided yet..

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And of-course, 1st is my birthday..

The second time, when I would not be in Patna.. Last time was 2011 in Mangalore.. That was during my mourning period anyway, as Mumma had just passed away..

I think I had had a lunch and then headed to The Hindu office for an evening shift.. Let's see what do I do this time... as I said, my friends are not around..

May be I would watch a movie.. drop in to office for an hour and then have a sumptuous dinner somewhere..

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(Dec 29, 5:44pm)

I don't even have the option now to say, "Hi, I'm back to blogging."

I have done that earlier, and then not lived to the promise I made.. I don't know what exactly is happening.. Why am I constrained..

I think the first thing is, I am no longer quick.. there are times, and there are events, when I feel, oh yes, this should go to my diary..

But I am not prompt enough to pen it.. and at a later time, that feel is no longer present..

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But, I would feel miserable if I do not write anything during the year end.. but how could I not write anything, while in Patna, attending my best friend's marriage back home?

I'd be so tired.. I attended all the functions.. but I could not bring myself to write..

Second reason is personal.. I am brooding too much about the material things perhaps..

No, I'm not planning to get married.. though, yes, like every person does in his late 20s, I am hearing so many people talk about and discuss my marriage more than perhaps I would ever do..

I am definitely thinking about buying an apartment... But can I afford the loans? Yes, if I do away with my Patna apartment, my mom's house for which I pay a fat rent every month..

But that's like cutting my roots... brushing away every trace of my childhood days..

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Then there's my father... the relationship is much better now, but then there's so much uncertainty.. there is this relative of his, who has eyes on his property...

Is that bothering me too much?

I can't answer in yes or no.. I'm not money obsessed.. but unlike my mother, I'm not totally withdrawn from seeking any kind of material comfort or security..

And I genuinely believe, if you are living in the material world, you should not have that attitude..

Because it ends up bothering your family and children.. Like when mum passed away, I did have very uncertain times...

Though, ultimately, I started getting her family pension - via my father, who she did not divorce in her lifetime - and there was money to take care of the Patna house and the servants..

Either you are an ascetic living in the Himalayas, or you are practical.. but then you see, I'm getting bitter.. perhaps critical of my own mum, whom I have loved beyond everybody else..

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Anyway, coming back to dad, he is so uncertain.. he would not discuss anything about the future.. When I do, he will effortlessly make the conversation meander into all sort of philosophical things, with no solutions in sight..

I get irritated.. and this relative truly loves this... frankly, I don't give a shit if she manages to get away with all my father's property..

But she must not get what is my mum's... mum was so impractical.. she left her jewellery, and a treasure of that, in a joint account with dad.. even though she had left dad when I was just a few months..

She owned a joint land with my dad... she didn't do anything about it in her lifetime.. now, I'm afraid what if this relative usurps even mom's share of the money which rightly should be mine?

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So, these thoughts tire me.. I don't want to write about them, least think about them.. but your state of mind does reflect when you write something..

May be these are the reasons I don't write too often.. but anyway, this is year end.. and I'm planning to write again.. seriously..

We will see.. I cannot be cowed down by circumstances.. I have seen worse, and with the Goddess' blessings, surmounted them..

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Yes, there is one more reason.. Now I really want to write my novel.. that's not happening... and then when I'm writing the blog, I feel as if I'm just into smaller things, missing out on the larger aspiration..

But you know what, these are all negativity... you are not doing one thing, and that is stopping you from not doing another..

The approach should be, do whatever you can at the moment, and try putting up more effort to finish the other ones too..

Action brings action, lethargy leads to more inertia.. so, may be that could be a new year resolution..

Let's keep doing the good action, and as far as the material questions are concerned, may be the positivity generated by my actions will take care of them..

And then the Goddess is always with me!

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